One of the best ways to show those we love that we truly love them is by serving them and doing good things for them that make them happy. But what do you do when all the good things you do for them are left unacknowledged and unappreciated? Maybe even reciprocated with disgust or disdain or mean and hurtful words and actions?
Well, the best answer I can come up with is: You Keep Loving and you Keep Serving.
Lao Tzu said: “Treat those who are good with goodness, and also treat those who are not good with goodness. Thus goodness is attained.”
We don’t serve others to get something in return, we serve others to give something as a gift. And the giving of that gift with love is reward and compensation enough.
As Kahil Gibran stated: “There are those who give with joy and that joy is their reward.”
Sometimes it’s hard to want to keep giving to those who repeatedly ignore your efforts and rarely if ever reciprocate the love and service. In a world and society that seems to be fueled and rewarded by living with the attitude of “What’s in it for me?” it can be difficult to want to keep giving when we aren’t recognized for all the good that we’re doing. We may even want to stop giving until or unless those we serve start to recognize all we’re doing and show some kindness, respect and gratitude for us.
Believe me I know how draining and upsetting it can be to keep giving and giving and getting nothing in return. I know how painful it is when those we love constantly say and do mean and hurtful things to us. I know how hard it can be at times to keep loving and serving them despite all the grief and pain their response or lack thereof may bring.
But the truth is, you are being recognized and rewarded for the good you are doing! Every single act of service given in love has the power to create change in a person and in the world. And besides, nothing ever goes unnoticed by God. When we are able to give and keep giving without wanting anything in return then we truly give with the purest deepest love. And such love will, in time, always bring about great change in yourself and in others.
Our true Self knows that serving others is not about “what’s in it for me?” (even though ultimately what’s in it for us is love, peace and joy, which all sound pretty rewarding to me,). It’s about “how can I love and serve to bless another?”
So why keep loving and serving others despite how they may or may not respond? Because if we live as our true joyful Self… that’s just what we do!